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Calm Your Mind: Release Stress, Gain Clarity

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I’ve been reflecting on you lately, as I’ve received so many heartfelt responses from the last blog I posted. Many of you shared that you’re feeling unsteady, uncertain, and overwhelmed by the turbulence of everything happening right now. And I want you to know—I hear you.

I’m feeling the call of the collective, too. We are being pulled in so many directions, and the need for support, connection, and compassion has never been more urgent. Whether it’s the chaos of the world around us or the quiet turmoil inside, it’s clear that many of us are searching for something to anchor us.

We are all craving ways to return to a place of peace, alignment, and clarity. That’s what I want to offer you today—some reflections and tools that can help you turn inward, find your footing, and begin the important work of being held more fully, and healing.

 

We are living in a time that is calling us to come together—not in spite of our differences, but because of them. No matter our beliefs, backgrounds, or experiences, we are being invited to step into a new way of being, one that requires us to meet each other with greater awareness, compassion, and understanding.

But before we can truly unite with others, we must first learn to unite with ourselves. This means turning inward, becoming aware of the places within us that still need healing, and bringing consciousness to the wounds that shape our reactions, beliefs, and choices.

I personally believe that life is revelatory. And thus, the people and circumstances who appear in your field and trigger you, are simply there to reveal to you where YOU are not yet free. 

When you focus on the extraneous circumstances and feel victimized by them in any way, you are missing the point, and the golden opportunity. 

You are meant to look inward and ask: ‘What is this struggle revealing to me about myself?’ ‘What part of my ego needs to be held here?’ ‘Who is my true self, and how might I be in opposition to that version of myself because of who I actually am right now?’

The truth is, our suffering is self-induced. And we collaborate with that shadow material fully. It’s when we can accept and embrace our unconscious participation in our struggle that we can truly find the path to our greatest liberation and live the life we desire. 

Bringing consciousness to our wounds does not mean judging ourselves for them. It means illuminating them with presence and curiosity, recognizing how they influence us, and choosing to tend to them with care rather than allowing them to run our lives in the shadows. 

True healing is not about bypassing pain—it is about meeting it fully, offering it light, and integrating the wisdom it holds. And as we do this work within ourselves, we naturally contribute to the healing of the world.

Many are feeling lost and disoriented right now. There is a tornado of unsettling material occurring at a swift pace and it’s easy to be swept up in it.

But I believe that the only way to find our footing and move forward in a positive trajectory is to first turn inward. 

Identify with honesty where you are misidentified with your true Self. This requires the ability to self-reflect and witness yourself objectively. Often this requires a safe container, an objective but loving witness to help us see ourselves more clearly.

Commit to yourself to seek this out and to preview yourself like never before. Pursue the truth and welcome it with the intent to know yourself deeply, intimately and with wild abandon and radical acceptance.

When we bring light into ourselves—when we cultivate clarity, stillness, and intentionality—we are better able to pour that light into the world.

One of the most powerful ways to begin is by noticing the difference between reacting and responding—how we move from our past default patterns to conscious choices. 

If you are seeking support or guidance as you navigate these times, please don’t hesitate to reach out. You are not alone in this journey. 

There is nothing I love more than meeting intimately with you and your soul, and helping to illuminate to you all that you cannot yet see, so that you may be the most enlightened version of yourself. 

This is your birthright, and your truest purpose. Everything else will make more sense after that!

 

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The Medicine of Darkness: Honoring the Cycles Within

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As we transition into the Fall season, the shifting energies around us reflect a deeper truth that we, too, experience within. Just as nature moves from vibrant summer blooms into the quietude and rest of autumn, we are invited to honor the balance between light and dark within ourselves. 

It’s easy to resist change, to fear the unknown, and to cling to what we think we can control. But this resistance often leads to suffering, keeping us in survival mode and preventing us from embracing the flow of life.

In Fall, we are reminded of the cycle of death and rebirth. The leaves fall, creating space for new growth. Similarly, within us, there is a need to surrender to the darkness, the uncharted places we may fear, and allow them to be the fertile ground for new possibilities. 

When we release our grip and trust the process of life, we create the conditions for profound healing and growth. 

Darkness is not something to be feared but embraced. Life itself begins in the rich soil beneath the surface, where roots grow strong, before blossoming into the light. 

Just like nature, we, too, need the dark to nourish us. It’s in the descent into our shadow—those parts of ourselves we’ve rejected or disowned—that true healing begins.

This is the medicine of darkness: integration, acceptance, and ultimately, growth toward the light.

In psycho-spiritual healing, we honor the interconnectedness of mind, body, and spirit. The true magic happens when we explore the deeper parts of ourselves, not just in the intellect but in the heart and body.

Multidimensional healing, whether through therapy, bodywork, or spiritual practices, supports this process, aligning us with our innate wholeness. Those parts of you that have felt unworthy or unloved are waiting to be embraced, so they can return to their rightful place in your whole being.

This is the journey to clarity, peace, and the freedom to create the life you desire.

Through conscious awareness, we see that we are not our thoughts. The beliefs and patterns ingrained in us over time do not define who we are at our core. Beneath these layers is your true self—pure, innocent, and whole.

Fall invites us to release these old patterns, much like trees shedding their leaves, so that we may create space for a more aligned, joyful life.

This season, I invite you to explore these parts of yourself with gentleness and curiosity. As you shed the old and embrace the new, allow yourself to be supported in this process of transformation.

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You Are Safe to Heal: A Journey Through Self-Compassion and Inner Light

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Healing often feels like you’re waking up from a dream. It doesn’t require you to forget about or try to erase the past, rather it requires you to integrate it.

Remember, life is our teacher. No matter what you are experiencing, healing is always available to you.

Does it happen quickly? No.

Is it easy? Absolutely not.

But instead of punishing yourself for not being further along, I invite you to hold on to the belief that you are, for now, right where you need to be.

Please don’t punish yourself for the ways you acted out your pain when you were merely trying to survive.

One of the biggest blocks along the path of healing is unpacking the guilt and shame we’ve carried with us for the ways we let ourselves or others down.

Not only do we lose trust in others at the imprint of trauma or betrayal, but we can also lose trust in ourselves.

When we are feeling abandoned, afraid, alone, untrusting or angry it is our shadow that can take hold. It doesn’t make you wrong or bad. Forgive yourself for feeling these ways and give yourself permission to heal and claim the light inside of you.

As you commune with deeper layers of grief, you are being taught to show up more compassionately towards yourself and others.

Healing takes time and courage. It takes forgiveness and love…for others and Self. You are not meant to carry your old stories of darkness and trauma to your deathbed.

 

Every moment is an opportunity to shed generations of familial and ancestral trauma.

Judging yourself only slows the process, keeps you blocked, holds you hostage to your own pain.

Tend to your shadows. Hold your inner-child with love, tenderness and acceptance.

Honor the walls you’ve had to build. They were there to protect you and keep you safe.

You are safe to feel what you feel now.

Trust your heart. The light in you has always been there and will never lead you astray.

Let a new story birth itself from all you have learned and overcome to be here now. Whatever you had to go through to come to this place of awakening was a divinely orchestrated gift.

And above all else, always remember…you are so deeply loved. So deeply loved.

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Tender Rebirth: Trusting the Path of Love

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In our darkest hour, it might feel impossible to believe that something good could come of our pain.

In our moments of deep despair, we might see the world as an unsafe place for the tenderness of our hearts, and the ferocity of our love to be seen and held.

But my darling, life is not trying to break you down, it is trying to break you free.

If it’s true that we are all here to learn to love and to live fully, then it is also true that everything you experience is a doorway.

You are safe to enter.

It may feel like a very long journey, but if you keep your heart and eyes open you will see and feel the glimmers of hope along the way. Each smile from a stranger, each sunrise and sunset is there to help remind you of the simple blessings, guiding you back to love.

There is hope when you let the rain kiss your skin, or the birds sing their songs just for you.

There is hope, when the ocean crashes on the shores and you let the earth cleanse you of your sorrows.

When you let yourself be held by the very foundation in which you rest.

 

When you remember that you were never abandoned because love is all that you are.

 

Never forget the power of your intention, and the strength in your courage to forge a new path. To emerge from your cocoon as a butterfly, no matter how long it takes you to find your wings.

The tragedies and losses and heartbreaks you endure are not a punishment from God, or a sign that you are somehow broken or unworthy, or just not cut out to have what you want.

We all suffer, and we all come face to face with death – of dreams, of potential futures never birthed into being, of loved ones, of parts of ourselves we had to leave behind, of parts we’re still reclaiming.

This life is fleeting and in the end, all that matters is that you did what you came here to do – love. So please don’t close your heart for good, you are too precious to hide away forever.

Take your time, be with whatever it is you need to feel through, and when you are ready…come home.

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Sacred Mirrors: Alchemy Through Relationship

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Relationships reveal both our shadows and our light. They are mirrors for our own inner-dimensional fractures and wounded-ness which are longing to be repaired.

Relationships are powerful alchemical containers that bring to the surface our deepest patterns, both illuminating and challenging us.

The opportunity is ripe to transform ourselves in ways we could not otherwise do alone. 

Healing isn’t linear, and neither are relationships. They ebb and flow, weaving in and out of intimacy and polarity. We navigate thresholds, manage ruptures and repairs, and move in and out of connection, often stumbling over our actions and words.

In these dynamic interactions, we have a choice: embrace the alchemy or remain stagnant. As humans, we dance within these potent containers, reflecting our pain points, exposing our truths and illusions, all while seeking safety, acknowledgment, acceptance, and love.

Our relational framework is deeply rooted, often formed in our earliest years and influenced by past life experiences, ancestral imprinting, and our current life’s relational dynamics. This framework is interwoven with our subconscious, nervous system, and immune system, collectively guiding our being.

You might find yourself dwelling in a fragmented relationship with another, where old patterns, stories, and behaviors are exposed. Yet, this exposure is a necessary step in upgrading and transforming our relationships, reflecting the internal work we do.

What is it within you that is surfacing, ready to be alchemized and transformed? What patterns must die for the new to be born? 

Lean into the cycles of death and rebirth within your connections, both past and present.

Be gentle and kind to yourself as you navigate your relational templates, inner child activations, revelations, triggers, and breakthroughs.

Co-regulation is possible, and indeed the sweetest medicine, when you choose to lean fully in and understand that everything happening in your relationships is a reflection of something happening inside of you. 

If something is showing up in your relational framework which you are unhappy about, what if instead of pointing the finger and focusing on the other person, you sought to discover what inside of you is a match for this circumstance and dynamic?

What if you explored that perspective instead of facing outward with blame? What if you took full responsibility for yourself and your own happiness? 

What if you healed yourself instead hoping the other person would heal? 

This journey is powerful and profound but having a guide can make it a lot less daunting.

I love doing relational work because all things are connected. Sometimes that looks like working with couples. Sometimes that looks like working with individuals to move deeper into connection. 

One thing remains true, if we enter relationships before we have done our own Conscious healing, we will play out our subconscious wounded-ness with our partner in an unconscious attempt to repair it. 

Usually this doesn’t go well for us, or for our partnership.

We tend to find partners who are the perfect reflection of our deepest wounds. In particular the wounds we carry from our most complicated relationship with one of our parental figures. 

If we are not conscious about the dynamics playing out, and the true source of them, we will get caught in an unproductive loop, and our relationship will struggle and suffer.

I love this work because I know what is possible in connection. I believe it’s what we’re here to experience in a meaningful, conscious way. 

I’ve worked hard to accomplish that personally, and I know how rewarding and fulfilling healthy relationships are for the soul. Especially in romantic partnership. 

I’ve learned that the container of sacred partnership is an elevated way of living. And it’s the only way I want to be in union. I want all my relationships to feel healthy and alive. 

 

It is a lot of work. A deep journey inward to be fully available and prepared for this kind of love. 

The beauty is now I know the way in, and I feel confident in my ability to move through any challenges with flow and balance. 

If I can help guide you deeper into your own heart, it would be my absolute pleasure to stand with you there until you feel at home again, and until you can find your way to sacred connection!

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Honoring Your Rhythm: A Journey of Self-Love and Healing

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The tension we have been experiencing in the collective continues to bring forth aspects of our being that seek acknowledgement. Be tender with yourself.

As we navigate through the integration of old patterns and fragmented parts, we must carve out space to nurture and care for these parts of ourselves.

Through witnessing the collision of the old and new paradigms, a myriad of emotions may arise—be it anxiety, fear, excitement, or anticipation. Each has its rightful place and pace in our internal landscape.

It’s important to move through this process with compassion, and a deep understanding that the discomfort is all part of the sacred journey.

In my own personal journey of healing from trauma, I’ve learned to honor my own rhythm and space. By tuning out external distractions and attuning to my inner compass, I’ve embraced my unique timeline, recognizing that my processes evolves alongside the phases of my beingness.

Wherever you find yourself in this moment, honor it fully. Consider how you can build healthy boundaries to protect your peace. Remember, this state is not permanent, there’s wisdom in all of it.

Healing always leads us to confront our pain points and core wounds. These vulnerable parts of ourselves are exposed, seeking acknowledgment and love.

This is the medicine.

It’s important to pay attention to what we instinctively reach for outside of ourselves in moments of discomfort. We may seek external validation or attention to fill the voids left by early childhood experiences, but these temporary fixes ultimately dissolve, leaving us feeling abandoned once again.

The true healing of these wounds can only come from within, through self-love, acceptance, and presence. When we attempt to heal our core wounds with the salve of another person’s validation, we only perpetuate the cycle of pain.

Instead of seeking external validation, redirect your love and attention inward, towards the source of your pain.

By re-parenting these vulnerable parts of ourselves, we unlock a sense of liberation and fulfillment that we’ve always yearned for. It’s through this process that we find alignment, reclaim our power, and gain clarity on our journey of healing and transformation.

If you feel called to be held in a sacred container and walked through your journey with a guide, it would be my honor to help you find your way.

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From Suffering to Strength: The Transformative Power of Pain

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As we walk the human journey, we will each experience a variety of challenging cycles within our lives. These cycles are divinely timed as part of our unique experience.

The truth is that pain is an inevitable part of being human. However, our suffering is optional. We have a choice regarding our relationship to pain, and whether or not we suffer because of this pain.

These experiences are deeply spiritual and have been a part of the human journey throughout time.  Painful experiences and circumstances are an opportunity to discover the unknown resources of power within each of us.

Amongst my deepest ethos and practice orientation remains true: 

A problem is never the true problem, what matters most is how we orient ourselves around that problem. 

 

An empowering awareness is, we can’t avoid pain. We can avoid suffering.

At its most extreme, the conditions of these cycles are brought to surface through unforeseen life events such as trauma, illness, accidents, death, divorce, financial loss, or any other past or present life circumstance. 

Many of us do not even recognize what is occurring, as it is hidden within the pain and chaos of ordinary life.

But we are all here to live our purpose.  Which means, if we are to bring our unique gift or medicine to the world, we must go through the experience of wounding, death and rebirth, and conscious post-traumatic growth before we can live in the fullness of our truth.

Our challenges are the lessons that lead to our own personal power where wisdom can emerge.

 

In psychology, this has been studied and is known as 

‘POST-TRAUMATIC GROWTH’. 

This phenomena says that when we experience trauma of any kind, we have the opportunity to be reset in the aftermath of the trauma, which is always a mindset choice. 

The viable opportunity exists to have an even more meaningful life after the trauma when we choose to lean into the growth opportunity from the pain or loss. 

Simply put, experiences open us to greater wisdom when accompanied with the conscious right action. 

This has everything to do with our consciousness and choosing to align with what truly matters to us, which we often only discover after the trauma occurs.

 

Clarity, trust, self-love and self-worth, and discernment of what is ours to transform and what is not ours to carry forward are the qualities we must cultivate in order to support the growth of wisdom in our lives so that we may walk our path of purpose and fulfillment.

It is taking what we have experienced and learned, and transforming our lives to co-create with this new understanding and meaning for ourselves, and for the world around us through our purpose and meaning.

Exploring the wounded parts of ourselves is how we open to the ultimate possibility that is our life.

 

Awakening our consciousness and leaning into the pain opens the door to a truly unimaginable possibility.

Living a deeply awakened life is so magnificent and so far beyond most of what we see in the world that even when we experience it for ourselves, we often find it hard to accept that life could be this extraordinary.

But for us to make room in ourselves for the miraculous to take root, we must uncover, and ultimately restructure the belief in a life of limitation and examine our relationship with pain and suffering.

This deeply rooted and often unconscious limitation subtly holds us back from taking the steps of trust required to truly experience our own personal freedom and create a life we love living.

 

Speaking from personal experience, I know how grateful I am for the traumas in my life. 

Although the pain I have experienced personally felt excruciating and unrelenting at times, I would not have become the person I am, fulfilled by the work that I do, and conscious of my authentic Self if it were not for these experiences. 

I chose to lean into my post-trauma growth. I sought out healing, I turned inward, I explored my pain and relationship to suffering, I grew a relationship with my subconscious patterns. I became conscious of what I was meant to learn from the pain and who I could become because of it. 

My orientation to trauma was to witness the growing edge that was available to me through its discovery and unfolding. In doing so, I vaporized my suffering and became empowered by my pain. 

This was my awakening process and the pathway to my highest self.

You can awaken too. It’s never too late to change your relationship with suffering and trauma.

 

An awakening is not just a glimpse into the future — it’s an awareness of what is already true within you, here and now. What is aching to be birthed through you from your divine blueprint.

This is who you were born to be. It’s your true power, your essence, your genius, and the source of your prosperity and happiness.

 

When you are cut off from the truth of your essence, you don’t just fail to fulfill your true potential, you experience a disconnection from this divine pattern in you. 

That’s why the many attempts people make to solve “the problem/ sickness/ suffering” don’t work — because they are symptoms, not the root cause.

When we rediscover our truth and begin to align with and activate the latent power within us, our suffering dissolves.

This is when miracles can happen.

Are you ready to experience miracles and live out your true purpose? 

Are you ready to have trust and faith that no matter what challenges and pain arrive in your life, you are equipped to consciously traverse them and be stronger for it?

I invite you to explore the possibilities with me as your guide.

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Embracing the Underworld: A Journey of Shadow Work and Renewal

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Collectively we are dealing with radically uncertain times. All around us, we are feeling the charged energy vibrating throughout the cosmos. You may even be feeling triggered and unstable in many areas of your own personal life.

I believe the world is experiencing a spiritual descent into the Underworld.

When I speak of the Underworld, I’m not referring to a physical place, but a metaphoric place within ourselves. The Underworld is the deepest, most hidden part of ourselves where we suppress, repress, and bury all that we don’t want to look at, see, deal with or heal.

Carl Jung refers to this as “shadow work.”

Many of us are experiencing a descent into our shadow material, to our own darkness, shedding what no longer serves us.

As we approach these deep parts of ourselves, we have the opportunity to let go; to clear the old, stagnant and oppressive energy so that we may be born again into a more expanded version of ourselves. This requires acceptance.

 

The Universe is in constant expansion and so are we. Just as we are not separate from each other, we are not separate from Nature or the Cosmos.

 

When we look around, we see everything in nature going into a deep sleep or dying away. The trees are losing their leaves, but they are not dead- they are in a time of transition where they will come back to life again in the Spring. This transition is occurring within you, too.

We are planting the potent golden seeds for a new beginning.

We’re called to have patience and enter a state of deep rest, repair, regeneration, and acceptance. To let a part of our lives, or even who we once were, metaphorically die in order to seed, sprout, bud, and bloom again.

This is called resilience.

It is a reminder to all of us –

We must trust and stay open to what is dissolving away to make room for more light, expansiveness, growth and healing.

We must be willing to let go and grieve the death of what once was and no longer needed.

It’s easy to mistake this phase of growth as one where everything that once felt safe and secure seems to be falling apart. But beneath the surface of the dormant soil, things have never been more active.

We are experiencing a phase of initiation, renewal, and rebirth. Collectively and personally.  You ought to give yourself time and space to recover and rest.

This is perhaps the most important part of our growth. And it takes faith and surrender to do it.

This is a very tender, powerful time.  Trust the sureness of the fertile soil.

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How Our Wounds Are A Divine Gift

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These are indeed turbulent times.  The world continues to challenge us, our values, our belief in the goodness of humanity.

How are you doing with it all?

I am sensing, collectively, that many of our triggers are being activated and that is not easy on the nervous system.  It’s not easy to be in our world right now. To feel the discomfort as we watch old paradigms and programs crumble in preparation for something better to be rebuilt.

Both externally and internally, we are experiencing the sacred path of transformation for the purpose of transcendence.  The new earth consciousness.

What we’re being asked to remember is that each challenge we face is an opportunity to deepen our faith and trust in ourselves.

But these challenges feel painful as we reckon with our triggers and how the old way of doing things no longer works to keep us feeling safe.

It may have played an important role in our lives at one point, but what once felt like control, now only adds to our suffering.

 

Journeying through these dark, activating times requires deep soul work. 
We’re meant to lose our inner compass in order to find the medicine within our own being to reorient ourselves. 
To find our center. Where the light never dies.

 

We meet our triggers, our wounds, throughout the many different spectrums of life.  It cannot be avoided.

But the more conscious we become, the more aware, the more we witness them, we’re given the opportunity to integrate them more.

Our wounds are a divine gift of our humanity, our great teachers.  They offer us an opportunity to experience the absolute fullness of life on this earthly plane.

If you are feeling activated by the noise and chaos of current world events, I invite you to witness yourself, drop into the sensations you are feeling in your body, and be with it.

 

This is an invitation to trust the wisdom in your body, to integrate the feelings and allow your heart to soften.

 

You are here because you matter.  Stay true to your values.  Remember who you are, why you came.

There’s so much uncertainty woven into the fabric of these times.  But your job is simply to remember that it is an invitation into deeper intimacy with our bodies, our faith, our inner knowing.

Can you feel it?

Nurture that space, invite in more love.

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Trusting the Sacred Timing in Your Healing Journey

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It can feel really frustrating when you’re trying to shift a pattern, release a behavior, forgive a relationship or heal from trauma, and can’t seem to get there.

Despite your best intentions and devoted commitment to doing the work, and doing it in so many different ways – peeling back the onion, walking the spiral – all of it.  The reality is, we must release the timeline of our healing in order for that healing to truly arrive.

When we allow ourselves to let go of the timeline, we’re reminded that there are sometimes many cogs that need to turn, that are not just our own, in order for the true healing to happen. 

Sometimes it can be connected to many other people within your system, whether it’s your family system, your relational framework, friendship, social circle, or ancestral line. 

And while we can be devoted to doing our own work, there can also be many threads, both seen and unseen, that are interweaving to conspire towards that true state of healing.  

This is one of the great mysteries of life, particularly when it comes to ancestral patterns and breaking cycles within a family or within a system. (And by the way, our family of origin patterns are always played out in our romantic partnership frameworks until we Consciously heal). 

So, if you’re doing all the work, yet still feeling frustrated with not being able to move through your pain or suffering – remember to trust the timing.  It is all part of the sacred mystery.

 

A Divine order. A Divine timing. A Conscious collaboration.

 

Keep inviting yourself to soften into the mystery. Your path is unique.  You’re courageous for being willing to move through your pain and choose your liberation and ultimate enlightenment. 

So have faith, and trust that healing is happening every moment of every day. And, rest into the mystery of the timing.

Healing is happening and it will happen. 

I’m with you.

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